just cause
Every so often, someone asks me: Why do you want to have a baby?
I don't think they mean to be rude. I think mostly they're just curious.
But it's not an easy one to answer. Often Just Do has to suffice, or Cause, or worse - Not sure.
I can be very inarticulate at times.
But then, how can you explain something that is so big that it would just sound absurd if you tried to explain it in the context of every-day conversation?
Oh, you know how it is... Life, Death, Love, Eternity.
Shit like that.
Somehow I can't imagine it.
Ideas, anyone?
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Just Because. Does it for me.
I went to an infertility workshop a while back and that was one of the topics and most of the answers were pretty "false" . . . the leader poked and prodded everyone until we got down to the "real" reasons . . . which in general had to do with wanting a chance to do childhood again and or attaining some level of immortality by leaving a living legacy.
But even that is too trite. How do you answer a question like that? It's a basic human need like air and water
"Just because" works perfectly for me too.
I just came across your blog. First I would like to wish you luck with your IVF cycle. To answer your question, I believe that it is your business and yours alone. I don't think that anyone suffering from infertility would ever ask this question.
Take care and wishing you the best.
I wonder if they question fertiles as well, it's just taken for granted. Just because also works for me.
what an awful question. I hate it too. I typically just look at the person blankly.
"People are designed that way." It's evolution, or intelligent design, whichever takes their fancy.
No one has ever asked me that. Probably because I've told so few people.
"Because my biological clock and sense of curiosity/adventure got the better of my fear" will be the answer for me when the time comes...
It's odd, isn't it, how one of the legacies of feminism is not the choices we make but the constant need to justify these choices to other women. We've got a long way to go...
Why not pretend you're in grade 3 and just say "None of your beeswax!"
it is hard to define. I couldn't if someone asked me. It is just something I want deep down and sahring something very special with my husband. Also, the chance to see what a mixture of us would be like.
Anytime someone has asked me a question that is none of their business, I reply "Why do you want to know"? I guess that helps them to realize that their question was uncalled for and they move on to something else.
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